There’s a common misconception that once you reach the age of 50, you’re out of the dating game. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth and, as many individuals are discovering, this simply means you’re coming into your stride. There are so many new opportunities just waiting for you to discover. Online dating sites? Maybe introducing yourself to a colleague at work? There are countless ways you can find that spark towards finding your perfect other half.
Whether you’re feeling slightly unnerved by the idea of returning to the dating scene or simply have no idea on where to begin, here’s our list of things you need to know, empowering you to really make an entrance back onto the dating scene.
Some Things Never Change
With years of experience behind you, whatever your reason for wanting to return to the dating game, you’ll be pleasantly surprised to hear that some things never change. At its core, the essence of dating remains the same now to what it always has done. The term ‘dating’ still refers to the process of really getting to know another individual. It’s about investing time in each other, getting to learn the ins and outs of what makes that other person tick.
Connect with them spiritually, intellectually and emotionally. Ask them what their passions and interests are, how they like to spend their days, their evenings and their Sunday afternoons. As it always has done, communication is the key to success. The most important piece of advice we can give you is to remain confident. You’ve got nothing to hide! Just be yourself, smile and be honest, with yourself and with the other person. You’ll be surprised with how easy it is to connect with other people.
Everything Has Changed!
Well, not everything, but there are a few key elements to remember about the dating scene today, the biggest of these being the online dating scene. Apps and websites, such as eHarmony or Match, have massively taken off in popularity over the last decade and continue to increase their figures year on year. Despite the horror stories of Catfishing and fake profiles, 99% of the time you have nothing to fear. These stories are only stories because they happen so rarely.
You Have Changed
In addition to the rise in the online dating scene, there are a few other key points to remember when dating. As you have progressed through life, you have found your career, you have found financial security and the future you were daydreaming about when you were in your teens is the time frame you are living now.
And this is nothing to look back on! Always remember that your most exciting years are ahead of you! If successful in dating, you’ve got retirement to look forward to! Months and years that you’ll be able to spend with this other half, allowing you to enjoy so many things like the dream holiday you always dreamed of, having time to pursue your hobbies and the ability to invest time in some new ones!
This has become quite a taboo subject for many over 50’s but why does it have to be? Sex is a natural part of life and it matters as much now as it did when you were younger! Many older singles, including yourself, will feel a lot more experienced and confident when it comes to sex, especially when compared to your younger, more inexperienced years.
Nowadays, across all the generations, sex is no longer a taboo subject. We’re not saying jump in straight away and talk about it, but when the time feels right, approach the subject with confident and understanding.
Everybody Has A Past
You’ve gone through a hell of a lot to get to where you are today. You’ve lived through some of the best and worst times of your life and so is the person sitting opposite you. It’s your past that has made you who you are today! With that in mind, think about to your past relationships. What did you love about your old flings? The passion? The activities? The times you shared? What did you hate in some of your ex’s?
Just because you’re dating in later life, doesn’t mean you have to settle. You deserve what’s best for you and that’s something you should never forget!
Patience Is The Key
Remember back to your younger days? Trying your luck with certain people? Testing your boundaries? Feeling too shy to approach that one special person that you always regret? You’ve come a long way since then and returning to the dating scene doesn’t mean you have to go back to being that version of you.
Dating brings up a complete cocktail of feelings including excitement, dread, fulfilment and anxiety. No matter how you feel, always remember to be patient. As the age old saying goes, good things come to those who wait. You may not be a firm believer in fate or destiny but, as proven over and over again, things will always fall into place when they mean to.
Not every date you go on will end in anything amazing. Unless you’re incredibly lucky, it’s doubtful you’ll meet that special someone first time around but should never let that get you down. Sooner or later that perfect person will enter your life and it always will be well worth the wait.
Saving the best till last, this is the most important item on the list! It doesn’t matter whether you’re in your fifties, sixties, seventies or more, you can always have fun and find pleasures in life and only you know how best to do that! Share your passions with potential dating partners. Try out new restaurants, go to the cinema, try a new activity that neither of you has ever tried before, the possibilities really are endless!
As you can see, the world of dating isn’t really as daunting as it may originally seem. Stay connected, be open-minded, be honest, be open and stay positive and who knows what is waiting around the corner. Bear these tips in mind and no matter what, always put yourself first, ensuring you’re having fun and living life to the fullest!